{"id":44,"date":"2020-11-26T13:14:18","date_gmt":"2024-02-27T13:32:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.xiyinofficial.com\/?p=44"},"modified":"2024-02-27T07:32:38","modified_gmt":"2024-02-27T13:32:38","slug":"why-i-started-going-to-therapy-why-i-think-therapy-is-for-everyone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.xiyinofficial.com\/index.php\/2020\/11\/26\/why-i-started-going-to-therapy-why-i-think-therapy-is-for-everyone\/","title":{"rendered":"Why I Started Going To Therapy (+ Why I Think Therapy Is For Everyone)"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\n I\u2019m still trying to figure out why there\u2019s such a stigma around going to therapy.
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\n I\u2019ve been in therapy for almost three months now, and it\u2019s definitely one of the best things I can do for myself. I think we all know that therapy has a negative stigma around it, but honestly, that\u2019s the furthest thing from the truth. First off, I know how lucky I am to be able to realize that I have anxiety, and not letting it truly overcome my life. I started therapy because I didn\u2019t want to ever get to a bad place, and I think I\u2019ve become so self aware over the last few years. I know my anxious thoughts are quite literally JUST thoughts \u2014 so why wouldn\u2019t I try working through them with someone who is trained to help people with anxiety?\n <\/p>\n

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\n Therapy doesn\u2019t mean there\u2019s something wrong with you.
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\n Sure, people probably feel most inclined to find a therapist when they\u2019re in crisis or during a specific stressful life event. But everyone is so different. We all have our triggers \u2014 some more severe than others. I came to realize it\u2019s okay to start therapy just because you think you need a little extra help. It\u2019s also okay to not fully understand why you need a little extra help.\n <\/p>\n

\n So, why did I start therapy?\n <\/p>\n

\n Well, there were actually a few reasons.\n <\/p>\n

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\n because my ex said i needed it
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\n While that sounds really bad, it\u2019s very true. Although I didn\u2019t have the best relationship with my ex, I will say he is the reason how I started understanding my behavior. My anxious behavior. I started recognizing that my feelings and thoughts weren\u2019t totally normal \u2014 they were all signs of anxiety. I would think about my behavior was when I was younger\u2026and they all pointed towards anxiety as well.\n <\/p>\n

\n So yes, I really do think I\u2019ve been living with anxiety my entire life. I just didn\u2019t realize it. And when I did, that\u2019s when I realized I needed some help.\n <\/p>\n

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\n because i was experiencing a different type of anxiety
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\n I\u2019ve always been a very anxious person in my relationships. While I\u2019m very secure with myself, I was often not very secure in most of my relationships. This was due to a variety of factors. I attributed my behavior to being \u201cthe crazy girlfriend\u201d, and just played into that sort of role. And I was that way until I met Rob. I was very much just kind of thrown into our relationship (and I mean that in the best way possible). I was very content with being single, and when I wanted to stay single\u2026that\u2019s when I met Rob. From the beginning, Rob has always been very aware and respectful of my anxiety. I\u2019ve always felt very myself around him, so I had no problem opening up to him.\n <\/p>\n

\n I quickly began to realize that I was getting all of this anxiety from things that were not and should not be part of our relationship. I was anxious from things I\u2019ve experienced in the past. I was anxious over screwing up a really great relationship. I was anxious over \u201cthe worst case scenario\u201d. And that\u2019s when I actively started looking for a therapist.\n <\/p>\n

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\n because i wanted to work on myself
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\n When I started therapy, I realized I also wanted to understand myself better. I wanted to be able to cope with my anxiety on my own and in a healthy way\u2026 instead of how I always dealt with it in the past. I used to just let anxiety overcome me. Not in a way that was debilitating, but it certainly affected my mood, my days, and my relationships\/friendships. I also wanted to prepare myself to manage all difficulties in my life that will inevitably happen in the future.\n <\/p>\n

\n I\u2019ve learned a lot about myself, and right now I still think I\u2019m in that period. I\u2019m not quite ready to make any severe changes, and I know it won\u2019t happen overnight. That\u2019s why I\u2019m not rushing it. I\u2019m actually enjoying working through different areas of my life, my personality, etc. I\u2019m kinda just going with the flow. Going through each session and kind of word vomiting whatever I\u2019m thinking (or going through specific instances that came up throughout the week).\n <\/p>\n

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\n when i found a therapist and why it took so long
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\n So there were a couple of months between the time of my break up to when I actually started therapy. It was mainly due to fear over going to therapy. Not because I was afraid of the idea of therapy. I was more nervous to have to deal with my fears and anxieties head on. I felt like I would always feel like this, so why would I constantly talk about it.\n <\/p>\n

\n I started searching for therapists in May, and it took me quite some time to find a practice. When I found one I thought I\u2019d like, I reached out to them and started the insurance conversation. When I hit my deductible, my weekly sessions will be around ~$30. I\u2019m very thankful that my insurance covered a decent portion of weekly sessions. I know getting access to healthcare and the cost of healthcare is usually the reason why people DON\u2019T go to therapy. If you can, I recommend it. If you are struggling, I would exhaust ALL options. Putting yourself first (not just physically) is the most important.\n <\/p>\n

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\n why i recommend therapy
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\n I\u2019m very much enjoying seeing and FEELING the progress. I\u2019ve realized that my anxiety will never go away, but I\u2019ve already learned how to use different tactics and methods for different situations. I probably could stop going to therapy, but I really don\u2019t want to. I enjoy talking to someone, feeling like they\u2019re listening, and learning new things about myself. Oh and of course learning about different ways to deal and manage with anxiety.\n <\/p>\n

\n My biggest piece of advice is to remind yourself that getting help is probably the bravest and smartest thing to do. I promise that you\u2019ll feel better after connecting with a therapist. I sure did. While it seems so scary at first, it\u2019s SO important. Even on the days where I haven\u2019t been anxious, I STILL go to my weekly session. It allows me to think about my problems and my anxieties while I\u2019m in a good headspace.\n <\/p>\n

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